I am definitely someone who used to think I hated patchouli. I've been looking for more of it lately, but one I really like that should be obtainable and is very gentle is Blood Cedar from Firebird (they sample and their turnaround is pretty good). The owner said that they didn't really like patchouli much, and sort of wanted to make something with that component that they enjoyed. It's blood orange and patchouli I think- but not stinky.