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The bad was the total chaos of the cousin. Np surprise. I have travelled with a sword group and those road trips were simple by comparison. I have volunteered with a friend and taken a dozen developmentally and physically challenged adults on trips and it was fine. This was just so ...so...sooooo.....
Friday we left to go from Boston to Worcester to the hotel. It's only 1. hours, but no one can follow directions. I know where I am going, but no one listens. When we arrived to a restaurant for lunch I help the 96 year old to the rest room. She soiled herself. I clean her up. Sigh, but it is what it is. Do it quietly and allow her dignity. Then the cousins ask me to take stroke cousin to the rest room. She can't open doors or sit down without help. We go in and I get her situated and she tells me she needs to be changed. She wet her undergarment 6 times in the trip. She had a clean on in her bag, but nothing to put the soiled one in. She just wanted to leave it on the floor...NNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOoooooooo. I swear the depends weighed 6 pounds... ad I got wet. Sigh. Then we go to the table, but the chairs are too high. They tried a booth but we couldn't fit her in. They had high tops but she couldn't fit in that either. Finally someone brought out a chair from the kitchen and it worked. Sigh. Every time we stopped for food for the weekend it was the same.
At the wedding they sat me in between the 96 year old and the stroke cousin. I cut up the 96 year olds steak for her. As I ate stroke cousin pushed my plate and pushed hers towards me and said "Cut my food". No please or thank you. And when she wanted things she would poke me with her cane. She also spilled coffee on my new coat.
Today was check out day. Dad and I were ready at 8 AM...we could have been out of there at 5 AM, but spinal surgery cousin was riding with us. We left at 10 AM did not get home until 4:40 PM because of bathroom breaks and stopping for lunch...where we had the chair issues again. I think I was frothing at the mouth when I got home.
I am truly surprised lead cousin hasn't snapped yet. She deals with this all the time. While I like to think I play well with others, in the end I am not a heard animal.